My Silly Valentine

I am a sap.  Plain and simple.  I love Valentine's Day and all that goes along with it.  Candles, dinners, cards and gifts, flowers, love and secret little smiles.  I love it all.  I am fortunate.  I have one and have had one for almost 40 years.  He's mine, all mine and I love him more every day.  And even though there are some that would berate this made-up little non-holiday holiday, I still love it and I will defend it until I no longer have my own Valentine.  It's one day a year that for no other reason than I love him, I can buy a card and gift that just says I love you.  I can make a special meal and light candles and make a fire and turn on soft romantic music and I can get away with it.  There are no ulterior motives on this day--no, I do it all for love.  I do it just because.  Just because--he brings me coffee every morning, just because he constantly helps me out around the house, just because he listens to me, just because he's always there for me, just because he really is my best friend.

It's a sweet day--a day of romance.  But--but, what if you no longer had a Valentine?  What if your Valentine had passed away?  Such is the case of my good friend.  She is now a widow, with only her memories and her pictures to keep her sweet days of Valentine's past.  And that's who I thought of today.  I can imagine the pain in her eyes as everyone smiles and wishes each other a Happy Valentine's Day.  And it hurts my heart.  I am sure that if you asked her, she would tell you--I just want one more day with him.  Just one more day to tell him again that I love him.  It makes me cry just to think about it.  If I could I would have given her an extra special hug today.  I know she is thinking of her husband and missing him.

So why write a blog about Valentine's Day?  Why not!  Why not let the one person in this world know how much you love and care about them?  Why not show them with small gestures or gifts that they are special?  Why not thank them for loving you?  I know that I am not the easiest person to live with, so I am especially grateful for the man I married--poor thing!  He got stuck with me!  It's a good thing I am funny or he just might have ditched me a long time ago!

Valentine's Day--make the most of it.  Make a grand gesture.  Show that one special person in your life how much you love them.  Make it the best one ever--because you never know--it just might be your last.  And that my friend, would break my heart.

the love of my life